No one can stop your love

No one can stop your love

If you set out to love someone, no one can stop you from reaching your goal.

If your goal is to get him to love you back, he can decide not to love you. If your goal is to change her, she can resist your attempts to change. If your goal is to please him, he can remain unpleased. If your goal is to control her, she can rebel against your control.

But no one can block your goal to give unconditional, Jesus-led love.

Others can reject your love, refuse your love, misunderstand your love, discount your love, spit on your love, ignore your love, impugn your love, but they cannot stop you from loving them.

Others can hold your love in scorn, crown your love with thorns, and nail your love to a cross of shame, but they cannot stop you from loving them.

Bono, from U2, once asked the question: “How do you dismantle an atomic bomb?” The answer, he said, was love.

Love presses through as “it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” and love “sustains all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV).

The all-powerful God of love takes our fears and redeems them with his love, so we can move with the unstoppable, sustainable objective to love even those who seem impossible to love.

With Jesus loving through you, no one can stop your love.

Wait For Him

Wait For Him

Wait for the man who will pursue you for the rest of your life –

The kind of man who reminds you everyday how beautiful you are

The one who knows your worth,

And will never ever take you for granted.

Wait for the man who will be your very best friend –

The kind of man who accepts all your flaws and imperfections,

The one who knows your vulnerable side

And strives to protect you all the days of his life.

Wait for the man who always makes you feel loved –

The kind of man who wants to show you off to the world

And the one who fills the gap between your fingers.

Wait for the man who values his family –

The kind of man who will one day share your life with,

The one that everybody would love to have,

But will assure you that he belongs to you and you alone.

Wait for the man who will lead you and pray for you,

The kind of man you will joyfully submit to –

The one who continues to be Christ-like each passing day

And always points you towards the Savior.

Wait for the man who puts GOD above all else –

The kind of man who knows what on earth is he here for

And the one who prayed to GOD in order to find you.

Wait for the man who will do everything to win you over –

The kind of man who holds on to his faith

And is not afraid to be rejected.

Wait for him, no matter how long it takes,

And never ever settle.

Because in the end, he’s  going to be worth all the wait. 🙂

The Gift of Goodbye

The Gift of Goodbye

I found this article posted by Joel Osteen and was so blessed by it. For some people, who are having difficulty saying goodbye to a person who walked out of your life, a relationship that was so beautiful or a season in your life which you enjoyed so much that it was too hard for you to let go of – this is an encouragement for you. There is a gift in every season of goodbye. It could only mean that something ‘new’ is about to begin. So, be excited! Surely, as C.S. Lewis had said, “There is far greater things ahead, than any we leave behind.” God bless you always! 🙂

All of us, at times, will have people who leave our lives for one reason or  another. Beyond your family and the commitment of marriage, there are some  relationships that are meant for just a season. It may be something you weren’t  expecting. You may not understand it. But if you’ve done your part to walk in  love and forgiveness, if you know in your heart you’ve done your best and the  person walks away, that’s when you have to trust that God knows who needs to be  in your life.

One time, I heard somebody talk about the gift of goodbye. It means when  somebody chooses to leave, you may not realize it right away, but they just did  you a huge favor. Maybe that person was holding you back. Maybe they were  keeping you from spreading your wings. Maybe they weren’t a good influence. When  somebody leaves your life, a business partner, a friend, a neighbor, a coworker;  don’t take it personally. Don’t get upset. Don’t try to talk them into staying.  Let God do a new thing in your life. Your destiny is not tied to the people who  walk away from you. You may think, “Man, I need them, Joel. They’re a great  friend; I count on them. He’s a great business partner.” No, God knows who you  need in your life to fulfill your purpose. If He has decided that the season is  over, there’s nothing you can do to hold it together. You might as well just let  it go and get ready for something new that God wants to do.

 Jesus told the disciples in Matthew 10, “If anyone will not receive you or  listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet and move on.” That’s what I’m  encouraging you to do today. Don’t try to force a relationship that has ended.  Shake the dust off your feet and move on. You don’t need the approval of  everyone on this planet; you only need God’s approval. You don’t have to defend  yourself because God is your defender.

Today, instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have.  Focus on the relationships that are in your life. Invest in the people around  you. Look for ways to sow love and encouragement. Thank God that He is opening  doors for you. Thank Him for the right connections in your life. And thank Him  for the gift of goodbye because He is ordering your steps and aligning you to  walk in the place of blessing He has prepared for you!

Loneliness and Solitude

Loneliness and Solitude

“It is not easy to stay with your loneliness. …. But when you can acknowledge your loneliness in a safe, contained place, you make your pain available for God’s healing. God does not want your loneliness; God wants to touch you in a way that permanently fulfills your deepest need. It is important that you dare to stay with your pain and allow it to be there. You have to own your loneliness and trust that it will not always be there. The pain you suffer now is meant to put you in touch with the place where you most need healing, your very heart….Dare to stay with your pain, and trust in God’s promise to you.”

“No friend, no husband or wife, no community or commune will be able to put to rest our deepest cravings for unity and wholeness. And by burdening others with these divine expectations, of which we ourselves are often only partially aware, we might inhibit the expression of free friendship and love and evoke instead feelings of inadequacy and weakness. Friendship and love cannot develop in the form of an anxious clinging to each other. They ask for gentle fearless space in which we can move to and from each other. As long as our loneliness brings us together with the hope that together we no longer will be alone, we castigate each other with our unfulfilled and unrealistic desires for oneness, inner tranquility and the uninterrupted experience of communion.” – Henri Nouwen (Reaching Out p.19) Emphasis mine.

 Indeed the solution to loneliness is not company; the solution to loneliness is peace in solitude.

– Quoted from Henri Nouwen’s article on Loneliness and Solitude

The Sisters Act

I remember when my sister and I were little, we were just so inseparable (or should I say, she won’t separate from me). On my quest to be ‘separated’ from her, I would run to my playmate’s house who also happened to be our neighbor and I would hide behind their window, tree, curtain or every possible place I could squeeze my little body in. But unfortunately, my little quest would always end up a failure as my lil sister, as cute as she was (exactly as in this photo) – had a thing for hide-and-seek and she would never stop until she finds me. I used to get so irritated whenever she would follow me – like everywhere I go! She was like my little shadow and I couldn’t seem to get rid of her. My mom would always ask me to look after her, which oftentimes leave me agitated coz I couldn’t seem to enjoy my own little freedom.

Inseparable! We finish each other’s sentence and we can read each other’s minds! haha!

 

But as we grew up, I learned that having a lil sister is like having an extension of yourself. It’s like having another set of arms when you need a helping hand; another pair of eyes when you can’t seem to see the good during your difficult times; another mouth that speaks words of encouragement when your own lips could only speak nothing but defeat; another pair of feet to walk with you when you’re down and beat and could no longer walk any farther; and just the thought of having another person with whom you share the same genes, same blood, same family name – who truly understands you and sticks with you no matter what -is just such a tremendous blessing which I am so grateful for!

And this is why I love her so much! I really appreciate having her in my life. So, my dear sister, thank you for always being there for me like a shadow that won’t go away. You’re amazing! I love u! 🙂 ❤️😘

(Originally posted on February 1, 2016 in facebook as a tribute during my sister’s birthday.) 

My Father, My Hero – In Loving Memory of Pepito Garcia (1946 – 1998)

My Father, My Hero – In Loving Memory of Pepito Garcia (1946 – 1998)

When was the last time you missed someone so badly it breaks your heart because you knew you are never going to see this person ever again?

I miss my Papa!

I woke up this morning feeling crushed as I stared at my dad’s photo that is sitting by the side table of our living room. As I looked at it, memories came flashing back to me like a movie being played in my mind. In that photo, my father was sitting on an uprooted tree whilst staring at the sea and proudly holding up his favourite friend, a bottle of San Miguel beer. A friend, who he would jokingly always say to us, was there with him in good times and in bad. He was quite a comedian, my father.

He loved going to the beach (perhaps this explains why our family loves the beach so much!) – the strolls along the shore, the feel of the breeze in the early afternoon, the sight of the sun as it sets in, and the delectable aroma of meat being barbequed to perfection whilst he watched all of us enjoy a meal together which he found to be the perfect time to deliver his endless speech about his dreams – his ambitions, his plans for the family and his aspirations for each one of his children. I used to take those moments for granted because I’ve heard them several times. It was as if I were listening to a broken record being played over and over. But now that he was gone, I would probably give up everything to have a minute with him – a chance to talk to him again, eat with him, laugh at his corny jokes and even dance his silly moves.

My dad found solace and relief from soaking in the beach and enjoying the sun.
My dad found solace and relief from soaking in the beach and enjoying the sun.
My dad and my brother, Oliver
My dad and my brother, Oliver
My dad had always been very protective of his three daughters, from left: Odessa, Olivia and Ophelia
My dad had always been very protective of his three daughters, from left: Odessa, Olivia and Ophelia
My dad enjoyed watching us play in the water while he drinks his beer in the cottage.
My dad enjoyed watching us play in the water while he drank his beer in the cottage.
He also enjoys watching us eat while he tells the story of his life.
He also enjoyed watching us eat while he tells the story of his life.
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Every Christmas, he made sure that we take a family photo.
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And sadly, this was the last family photo since he passed away the following year. 😦 (I was not in this photo as I was the one behind the camera.)
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My mom and dad, the two most precious people in my life! Celebrating the new year of 1997, who would have thought that he’d be gone the following year? 😦

It had been 16 years since he had gone home to heaven. Oh how tough those years had been for our family! Even though we had long moved on and accepted the loss, we knew that our lives would never be the same again. My heart still aches during Christmas season when I see family photos of my friends with their dads in the background making funny faces. My heart still churns as I greet someone else’s dad on Father’s Day when I didn’t have my own dad to say it to or celebrate it with. My heart breaks in to millions of pieces at the thought that on my wedding day, he is never going to be there to walk me down the aisle to give my hand in marriage.

I guess no matter what we say or do or how long it had been, the grief over the loss of a loved one will remain for the rest of our life. There would always be that part of us longing to be reconciled to that important person who we truly adore, respect, honor and love.

I know I could never have my father back but I also know that one day I will see him again in heaven. And this gives me peace and joy. Oh what a lovely reunion it would be!

Pa, thank you for sharing your life to us, for teaching us to be strong, for showing us how to be brave and fearless, for showing us what a good example you are as a provider and for all your countless sacrifices that brought us to where we are now. We shall see each other again soon, in a place where ‘there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.’ (Revelation 21:4)

Happy birthday, Pa! We love you… our father, our hero!