Loneliness and Solitude

“It is not easy to stay with your loneliness. …. But when you can acknowledge your loneliness in a safe, contained place, you make your pain available for God’s healing. God does not want your loneliness; God wants to touch you in a way that permanently fulfills your deepest need. It is important that you dare to stay with your pain and allow it to be there. You have to own your loneliness and trust that it will not always be there. The pain you suffer now is meant to put you in touch with the place where you most need healing, your very heart….Dare to stay with your pain, and trust in God’s promise to you.”

“No friend, no husband or wife, no community or commune will be able to put to rest our deepest cravings for unity and wholeness. And by burdening others with these divine expectations, of which we ourselves are often only partially aware, we might inhibit the expression of free friendship and love and evoke instead feelings of inadequacy and weakness. Friendship and love cannot develop in the form of an anxious clinging to each other. They ask for gentle fearless space in which we can move to and from each other. As long as our loneliness brings us together with the hope that together we no longer will be alone, we castigate each other with our unfulfilled and unrealistic desires for oneness, inner tranquility and the uninterrupted experience of communion.” – Henri Nouwen (Reaching Out p.19) Emphasis mine.

 Indeed the solution to loneliness is not company; the solution to loneliness is peace in solitude.

– Quoted from Henri Nouwen’s article on Loneliness and Solitude

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2 Comments Add yours

  1. Tony says:

    Sometimes the Lord draws you into the desert where you must depend solely upon Him for provision and fellowship. Very profound posting!

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    1. Pia Garcia says:

      Indeed, the wilderness experience in itself is actually a blessing as it is where we get to know God even deeper and depend on Him alone.
      Thanks Tony for stopping by. God bless! 🙂

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